pain during sex

This is probably the worst/most annoying symptom for me. I'm 30 yrs old and we've been married for 1 1/2 years. Luckily he's super understanding about it. It literally feels like my right vaginal wall is being scraped by sand paper, and like vinegar is being poured on it. If I do climax (only from external stimulus) it's as if my vaginal walls clamp shut right afterwards, and peeing becomes more painful. I've been going to physical therapy at my obgyn's office, where I found out that I've been learning to relax and un-clench my vagina (I was basically doing a permanent keigal for a while bc of the pain). I get so sad when we try to be intimate bc the mere idea of the pain I'm going to be in makes me tighten up so bad. It's horrible.
Posted by: pr1979 August 24, 2009 11:46 am

Last time we tried - about 4 months ago - the whole area was so swollen that penetration was impossible. Before that, when my symptoms were developing, it was the aftermath that was really sore.
Posted by: matilda August 19, 2009 10:18 pm

Penetration hurts to much. But even everything else is nearly impossible. When I get excited I am punished afterwards with pain for days.
Posted by: El April 26, 2009 6:30 am

Lidocaine, or not tonight honey!
Posted by: janewhite April 23, 2009 6:26 pm

can't say whether or not this is a factor, as it is too painful to even consider having intercourse
Posted by: Magenta March 10, 2009 8:05 pm

Yes. But what I hate and fear more is afterwards; after sex, my symptoms flare up and can last for days or weeks.
Posted by: freepress February 23, 2009 6:30 pm

I was not able to have sex or use tampons until I was 25 and had my hymen removed. I couldn't believe that I lived with the pain for so long and it took my gyn so many years to figure out that that was the problem.
Posted by: Delphistarr February 19, 2009 8:02 pm

I'm able to have sex now only because of an understanding hubby and a back massager used on my clit. It vibrates my clit so strongly that it distracts me from the pain. I can't imagine risking sex without this "clitoral distraction" AND a really, really good and thick lubricant (we use Maximus). All of this, despite Estrace/testosterone/Lidocaine cotton ball treatment twice a week.
Posted by: Kittles February 6, 2009 5:59 pm

No sex in this household.
Posted by: Bedelia February 6, 2009 3:44 pm

Until five years ago, sex was painful at all times to some degree. Then I discovered estrogen cream which works as long as I use it regularly. The addition of a certain combination of vitamins has lowed my vaginal ph to within normal limits as well, and I can sometimes enjoy painfree sex. When sex does hurt, my current boyfriend is adaptable and will either work with me to find a more comfortable position or stop entirely.
Posted by: jocasa February 6, 2009 3:22 pm

my doc prescribed cream to apply to area prior to sex...it works. Inconvenient but a healthy sex life is important to me so I'm will to take time to apply cream, let it set and then have sex. Cream is called Lidocaine Ointments USP, 5%
Posted by: pchicago91 January 28, 2009 1:05 pm

Using a vibrator barely causes any pain, only having penis in vagina sex does. Likely because with a vibrator the pressure is moreso at the forward / clit side whereas during sex there is more pressure on the back / anal side which is where my pain is located.
Posted by: Cara_Rouge January 23, 2009 7:08 pm

My husband and I have not had sex in over a year. The pain is so severe I usually burst into tears.
Posted by: Maudy December 31, 2008 1:44 pm